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Gerry Coon and Stewart Dempsey

Gerry Coon and Stewart Dempsey

Stewart: My parents had a terrible marriage, but I still wanted to get married. I wanted the commitment, the fidelity, the devotion to another person. I've been married for 21 years now, doing all the things that my parents didn't do, yet they had all the legal rights that marriage gave them. Gerry: Stewart is an incredibly kind and gentle man. he's the nurturer in our relationship. I can be a difficult person, much more rigid, demanding, opinionated. Stewart: We're very different people, and in some ways I think that's why it works. I'm not the easiest person to live with, either. We have our moments when we just want to stay mad over some stupid thing. Gerry: If we have an argument, I count on Stewart to come to me and say, "So now we're done with this silly issue and we're moving forward."We've learned to compromise, and we have total trust in each other. Stewart: Just about every night, I prepare a meal and we eat together. On weekends, we have coffee and read the paper together. We have our cocoa time and our reading time. I think these little traditions are supremely important. Gerry: We really like spending time with each other. Just being in the same room is nice. Restoring this old house, dealing with this very challenging neighborhood, we've gone through a lot together.

Together since June 21, 1986