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Paul Mandracchia and Gary Hollander

Paul Mandracchia and Gary Hollander

Gary: Gardening for 24 hours over a weekend, having very different approaches, not seeing things eye to eye — how to work together was something we had to learn. I've learned a lot from Paul. he's got a master plan. I'm more impulsive. Paul: For some couples, working side by side is easy and natural, but it wasn't for us. It took awhile to iron out. Gary: Paul has always been able to make me laugh more than any other human being can. Paul: It's the little things that remind me every day that I'm in love with Gary. I cook dinner for him and look after him as much as I can. The house, the garden, the dogs — these simple things have become very important as my world has gotten smaller. The multiple sclerosis has affected my ability to see, my physical strength, my steadiness, my balance. I have numbness in my feet and hands, so I tend to drop things. It has made me more sensitive to heat, so I can't sit out in the sun. A lot of fatigue. Gary: Sometimes I'm working in the garden and Paul can't. But as long as he's on the patio or within eyesight, he's working with me. he's going to give me the plan and I'm going to help execute it. It's the same motivator: we're working together.

Together since August 1982