Barbara: Sara's mom told her that she would rather have an alcoholic daughter than a gay daughter. To get back into her parents' graces, Sara had to do the opposite of what she thought she had to do, which was to grovel. Instead, she didn't talk to them for a year, set boundaries, and quit drinking. Sara: If I hadn't gotten sober, I don't think Barb and I would still be together. We both faced so much backlash from our families. And we've had financial difficulties, co-parenting issues, career problems, racial issues, mental health issues, suicide, teen pregnancy. You name it, we've probably gone through it. Barbara: To be able to tell Sara all about me, and to have her really hear me, is the best gift I've ever been given. I was very lonely and isolated as a child and had some real bad experiences. I didn't know my roots, I didn't even know my father. Now, to have the privilege of all these people in my life - we're building our own roots. Sara: I love all the pieces of Barb — and believe me, she's a complicated person. With Barb, it's always exciting, always fresh. I never know what she's going to do, and I love that, it keeps it alive. Sometimes, when we get a few hours alone, we'll say, "Let's go on an adventure! What do you feel like doing?"
Together since April 6, 1998