Mary: As it said on the cake at our commitment ceremony,
"Joined in love and struggle forever."Wendy: We smile
and laugh so much together, and we care so deeply about
each other. We want to keep growing together, be old together.
We have struggles, but there's this love. She still melts
my heart. Mary: When we first moved into this neighborhood,
it was, "Oh my god, there's lesbians moving in!" But once
they got to know us, it was hard to see us as scary. Wendy:
I want to say, "Hey, I'm not some scary person! I'm a member
of your family: your sister, your daughter, your mother,
your aunt."Mary: It's very difficult for some people
to be part of an inclusive society. But they can put up
as many obstacles as they want — we're not going away.
Wendy: We've really worked at our relationship and
at being parents, and we've had a lot of support, very much
an extended family. Daniel's got aunts and uncles all over
the place. Mary: Daniel's friends think it's cool
that he has lesbian moms. Wendy: He's like, "Oh,
please! They're my moms. Come on!"Mary: The most
optimistic thing we ever did was to have Daniel. Wendy:
He and his generation really are the hope of the future.
Together since January 25, 1981